How To Deal With Anger Management

Everyone, children and adults alike experiences anger. Everyone has good and bad days. It is not surprising that not everyone is able to control their anger effectively through proper anger management techniques. Anger can be triggered by a variety of circumstances and sometimes you can be agitated and angry for no apparent reasons.

Destructive and harmful responses to anger are usually the result of behaviors learn from the adults in life who express their anger in inappropriate ways. It is common for you to imitate others, conscious as well as subconsciously and sad but true, destructive behaviors are usually learned from those you cherish the most.

Uncontrolled outburst of anger may also land you in trouble and you may live to regret for the silly impulsive actions that cause you end up on the wrong side of the law. The law may be forgiving but society never forgets. You may forget what you did but who knows, family members, relative and friends may remember what you did for life.

Being angry all the time is detrimental to health. Angry feelings raise blood pressure, disrupt sleep, interfere with your appetite, destroy relationships and may even cause imbalance of hormones which thereafter trigger other health problems.

Now that you know why being angry is really bad for health and wellbeing, isn't it time to learn how to control unhealthy anger? Anger management is the process to control anger. The goal of anger management is to reduce internal responses and emotions that is cause by anger.

One good approach is to identify and determine the things that agitate and provokes you to anger and develop effective strategies manage your response to it without provoking angry responses.

Strategies such as relaxation techniques, problem solving, behavior modification, communication and change of environment can help you to control anger. The following suggestions can help you to reduce your stress levels so as to enable you to control yourself when you are face with situations that provokes your anger.

Simple relaxation techniques
Simple relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, and relaxing imagery can calm anger. Try to think about the things that makes you happy, recall past experiences and occasions that makes you feel good. Try to replace agitated thoughts and impulses with more rational ones.

Hold your peace and say nothing
There is no point in trying to reason or argue with someone who is extremely angry. Likewise your anger may cloud the mind and impair your reasoning and judgment so much so that speaking in anger may aggravate the situation and likely to hurt other's feelings. Try to remain calm and silently outward for couple of minutes or as long as you deem necessary to give emotion within you to subside.

Give yourself a break
If you find yourself unable to control your anger, it is best to to walk away from angry situations. Take a walk or find some other means to give yourself a break.

Think before you speak
Always be mindful that the words that comes out from your mouth cannot be retracted. Most people regret things they say in anger, so think before you speak.

Lift up your countenance and smile!
Smile has a powerful effect on diffusing tensions. Let the opposing parties know that you are offering goodwill through your smile.